Wednesday, November 07, 2012

Reminisce the Deepavali Journey

DEEPAVALI NALVALTULGAL :)
Deepavali is around the corner. Ever since 2005, I have never miss celebrating it in a way. I love visiting my friends' Deepavali Open House. It was the time to reconnect and revitalise friendships. I have lots and lots of Indian friends. And most of them are not mere friends, they are my dearest so close to my heart. I have known them since they were single and now married with families. 

Beside the celebration of triumph over evil and shine-your-light-always kind of feelings that Deepavali always brings, I have my own agenda. Dressing up is the reason I love festivals of any kind. I love to dress my self up to nine. It's my bread and butter. Or you may say wine and dine. One of those things that makes me feeling high. Lol! Crazy woman talking.

Can't refuse to pose near the flower basin
Being born in Selangor, then started schooling in Pahang, later find my glory in Sabah for the rest of schooling years and spend my life now in KL most of the time, I am pretty much a multicultural person head to toe. I will never tolerate racism in any forms. I will bash out all those who demote anyone in my presence.  Years of seeing many different things in life, years of experience with other cultures and ways of living, now I can never change to being a normal low profile person. I am never such words. I like it colourful like the rainbow. Colours bring cheers. I apply colour in every sector of my life. From the cloths preference, the shoes I wore, my hair style, my handbags and purses, my jewellery and my house deco.; all in wonderfully coordinated colours. Colours bring out your personality. And in my case, I love bright colours mixed with subtle colours to make it look right. You know, colour combination must always give the classy result. That's my style. Classy colours and never a dull moment.

Beautiful deco of a friend's wedding
in 2011
Reminiscent of my Deepavali milestones, here it is: 
2006 - Deepavali in a low profile manner being jobless and in a turmoil relationship. 
2007 - Celebrated Deepavali full swing with lots of love in the air
2008 - Celebrated Deepavali as a single person, broken hearted, away in the jungle or on top of  mountains.
2009 - Starting new job and having a new muse
2010 - Deepavali celebration full swing again
2011 - Deepavali was nice but on the edge of breaking down - Mom passed away
2012 - Expecting a fun loving time with old friends which have come long way since 2005.

Okay, that's how long I have been directly involved with Deepavali celebration. Before 2005, I have never had real Indian friends . However working in Putrajaya Botanical Garden had changed all that. And I never regretted that special place. Am really grateful to God. 

I would like to take this opportunity to thank you all my friends who have made my life so colourful and meaningful all through these years. God bless each and everyone of you out there. 

HAPPY DEEVAPALI EVERYONE!!!



Sunday, November 04, 2012

Can A Man and A Woman be Best Friends?

We often wonder if there is a possibility of a man and a woman to be best friends. 

The answer is NO, man and woman can never be BEST FRIENDS
May be GOOD FRIENDS, YES.

Photo from Friends with Benefits Series
WHY?

Because the opposite attracts. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. So eventually there will be some kind of love blossoming. It's fine if both are singles. But it's not fine if either one party has already been married or attached with someone. The friendship might turn to heartache at the end. FULL STOP.

Because of jealousies from spouses. If both man and woman have been married, the spouses will not tolerate it. Things can become ugly. You can never be able to 'lepaking' (chill) at your best friend's house whenever or wherever you feel like it if he or she has already been married. You can never be able to kick each other's ass or slap each other's face silly in the presence of the spouse. And worst of all, you can never be able to chat, sms, text or call the other often enough. Sometimes when you needed them the most, they were not available. But best friends need to do these stuffs. So how??? There are always restrictions. The spouses are always in the way. PERIOD.

Another thing to consider before you declare your best friendship is that, men and women have limitations in what they can do and share. The boundary pretty much determined by the society, religion or values in which they have been brought up with or the environment they live in. When people see a man and a woman having lunch or dinner often together, going out to movies or spend time together, the general perception was that both of you are a couple. A single man going into a single woman's apartment/house, the society will mark this as an immoral behaviour even when you did not do anything wrong in the house. These are the norms of most society. SAD BUT TRUE.

In Asia, most cultures can't accept the fact that men and women can be best friends. Tell me about it. I have one and failed. Now I am not a believer any more. STOP DREAMING.

However, with globalisation and the hype of media in all its form, the society has gone through a radical change. It is not spoken but yet it exist. Men and women now enjoy each other's company in a non-platonic manner but still a no string attached arrangement. We call it friends with benefit. In my opinion, this is the closest thing you can get in being best friends and yet trying to justify that there's no lovey dovey thing going on with the opposite sex and no intention of getting married to each other. Huh! SICK SMILE.

There you go, all the reasons why a man and a woman can never be best friends but just good friends. This is from my own opinion and personal experience. CIAO EVERYONE :) 

Saturday, November 03, 2012

Music Heals your Soul

Halloween make up - an attempt to be a cat
I went out partying more than ever. I am picking up life where I have left it. Piece by piece. Yeah. Four nights less than one week in the same month of October. Nights of music, dance and a test of friendship. Being single gives you this privilege to do anything that you like. No one to restrict your actions. Just go out and enjoy like there's no tomorrow. I kind of like it this way. For now.

The place I frequented lately is called Backyard. Yes, true to its name, it's located at the outskirts of nightspot areas of Sri Hartamas, KL. It's an old place that I have not visited for years. It's not known for being loud or crazy because it's more to a place for one to sit and chill with friends over dinner or drinks and be entertained by good music. They have live band every night. And a dance floor too. The food is great. If you love games of pool, you can have it there too. 

Every girl should have a best friend. My partner in crime
I was lucky that my birthday was on Sunday, so we went to backyard on Saturday's night to celebrate. The next day, we attended a wedding and went again at night to celebrate. On the eve of Halloween and night of Halloween we were there too. I am the type of person who enjoys being in the company of people, so I just can't sit alone too long by myself. I need to listen to the music, to sing out loud. I need to move on the dance floor, I need to celebrate this life. It's my escapism. 
Arumugam goes to Alabama - funny name for a band
Every performer in Backyard has been awesome. I have seen many of them and none have failed me. I love it. The photos I have here are one of a few that has performed in Backyard, one was the 'Arumugam goes to Alabama' and the other was a great songstress namely Poova and her band. The earlier band sang rock, reggae and pop music with an exotic twist in the music arrangements. They have 'sita' and 'tabla' instruments mixed beautifully into all the songs. And the singer sang beautifully with husky very manly voice. Pretty much impressive.
Ms. Poova and the band - she was like an Indian version of
Celine Dion - Fantastic voice!
As for the latter band, the singer Poova has proven that Malaysian can sing like the blacks. Her voice was so soulful and a bit of Celine Dionish kind of quality to it. She sang soul R&B and pop songs from her own album as well as others. She wrote her own songs as well, as she claimed. Very talented. At first we thought she was a bit reserved with her diva'ish style. But later, she gave in to the crowd and interacted quite warmly. We cheered over every song she sang. Fantastic voice.   

That's how I celebrated 2012 most memorable episode. I guess from now on I will update this blog more frequently. You know why? 

I got more to say this time. Huhuhu....

My last word for this posting taken from quote we often hear:

"A woman is like a rose, if you treat her right, she will bloom; if you treat her wrong she will wilt. A man's lost is another man's gain."








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